What is Guilt?

27 Feb

One of the greatest teachings of Jesus which most of us either ignore or ‘tweak’ to justify our own behaviours is ‘Judge not that ye be not judged.

My understanding of this relates to the need to observe our hypocrisy – when we observe this in ourselves it manifests as feelings of guilt. Guilt is self judgement. When we observe it (hypocrisy) in others, we judge them – accusing them of being ‘wrong’ and ourselves of being ‘right’.

Human behaviours are a reaction to other human behaviours. We each categorise behaviours, which include thinking, as good or bad, depending on our society, upbringing, friendships, core beliefs, choices, culture etc. – the feeling of guilt results when we compare our own behaviours to the expectations placed on us by the ownership we have of those definitions.

When we feel guilt we have a number of options:

  • We ignore it. ‘None of my business. What the heck. Shit happens.’
  • We justify it by comparing ourselves to the ‘enemy’.  ‘ He started it!’
  • We punish ourselves. ‘I’m useless. I’m unworthy. I deserve to be punished.’
  • We feel sorry for ourselves. ‘Nobody likes me.’
  • We forgive ourselves and move forward.

The final option is one we would all like to think we can apply! But how often is the perception  that we have done so, really the truth?

My take on this comes from my personal conviction that:

  • ‘God’ is an energy of unconditional love – it just IS. The attributes of this energy when it manifests as behaviour in the human are things like ‘kindness’, ‘patience’, ‘gratitude’, ‘compassion’, ‘acceptance’, ‘allowing’, ‘charity’ and of course, ‘unconditional love.’
  • ‘Sin’ is any energy we absorb and reflect that is abSINt of love. Its attributes manifest as behaviours of ‘judgement’, ‘self righteousness’, ‘superiority’, ‘outrage’, ‘guilt’, ‘grief’, ‘pity’, ‘hate’, ‘fear’, ‘retribution’ and ‘conditional love’.

I believe Jesus reflected the energy of unconditional love completely. When he was killed he ‘absorbed’ all energies abSINt of love and underwent the complete feeling of isolation it brings – lonely, forsaken, cut off – until the love he truly was transformed it all to reflect as the greatest act of compassion that we have ever observed, not because he underwent more physical pain than others (which he did not), but because he underwent the emotional pain of sin – complete isolation from the energy of love – by embracing and feeling it all.

It is the same pain we all undergo when we are feeling the effects of love’s absence in our lives. His example can show us the way to transform it with the energy of absolute love. This energy is EVERYWHERE except where it is isolated by the heart of the human in his ‘being’.

When we open our heart to connect with the love of our soul (AKA Jesus, God, Love, Allah, Buddha, Gaia – whoever/whatever is our personal representation of unconditional love),  and stand with our own pain – guilt, grief, hate, anger, blame -it can transform into a love of lesson. Only then can our hearts expand to stand with others in true compassion, available to them with love should they choose to open their own hearts. If we do not do this we deny them – and ourselves – the choice to change.

So we begin by examining our definition of unconditional love, as it applies to our personal ‘representative’. If we find it wanting, it is because we have applied to our concept of ‘God’, attributes which are created in his absence, to justify a perceived need to have power over behaviours.

If we can stand with the power of love in our being, then those who stand with a love of power cannot wield it! They might then choose love. But we must first address those of our own thoughts and actions which stand with a desire for, or subservience to, power. So we must identify this in ourselves and forgive it (give it forward to unconditional love, being so ready – sorry – to do so).

So when do we say no to others’ actions?

We can say no and stand against any action or decree which denies free choice. Although the choice to serve a love of power is honoured by unconditional love, if it disallows free thinking and choice for others, then war, law changes, incarceration, assertiveness, boundary setting  and protest are justified (application of truth serving love) even as we stand with them in their pain and offer our love. However, if we apply justice from a desire for revenge or in prejudice or hatred, rather than discerning an absence of love in others’ choices, we stand with them in judgement to feed our own love of power.

So the questions of choice in our lives are:

  • unconditional love, or conditional love.
  • the power of love, or the love of power.
  • compassion – standing with others in their pain, or judgement –  comparing others to our own measured standards.
  • discerning behaviours as denying or allowing the freedom to choose, or judging  behaviours as ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.
  • seek truth to serve love through the power of love, or seek truth to serve power through the love of power.
  • forgive -give forward into love those places within the heart absent of it or refuse to seek readiness (be sorry) to do so.
  • open the heart with a desire to serve love or close it with a desire to serve or wield fear.
  • Integrity or dishonesty.

Always seek within. If we are to bring about ‘Heaven on Earth’ we cannot exempt ourselves from these considerations of our personal choices.

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