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Who are your enemies?

3 Oct

Jesus said to love your enemies.
They are only enemies because of our fear and the stories we associate with them. These include our fear (judgement) of ideas, doctrines, individual people, their choices and actions, our own choices and actions (guilt – or pride – or self-righteousness), beliefs, governments, illnesses etc. – all enemies because our fear is the result of our withdrawal of love – not a rejection of it, for it is our core and our source – but a holding of it within our hearts so tightly it can’t get out except where we allow it subject to our rules and conditions. It is always there. It is the ‘precious within’ and we protect it fiercely with our walls of pain. Sometimes those walls are so hard and so thick we lose sight of what it is we believe we are shielding from that very pain. We come to define ourselves by the pain. We forget that which we truly are.
When we open our hearts to allow unconditional love into our being, it recognises and merges with love everywhere. We realise we are One.
If we can open our hearts to the unconditional love of Source within, we can observe dispassionately our ‘enemies’ and the emotion and pain we carry ‘because of them!’ It is that emotion and pain and the conscious thoughts, actions and words we make in reaction to them, that manifests our environment and our existence and creates our stories – not the ‘enemy’ itself. As long as we consciously react to the subconscious mind of our ‘pain body’, ‘inner child’, ‘son/daughter of Adam/Man’, ‘Human Condition’ or whatever you wish to call it, with judgement, anger, hatred, comparison etc., we will continue to manifest more of the same old, same old.
So pray, meditate – take yourself to that place within your heart where love is unconditional. Embrace your ‘humanness’, your ‘inner child’ and shower them with gratitude for their attempt to protect you, shower them with love for simply being, with compassion and understanding for the choices they have made. Ask them to give forward into the love that you are, (forgive) your choice to enable those choices with your conscious thoughts and actions, which were UNconscious of the situation – UNconscious of the true nature of Love.
Your inner child must learn to trust you and you must become worthy of that trust – that you are working from the heart. When your human child feels safe and loved without reservation, you can ask them to join you in seeking guidance from your high consciousness, the ‘Lord of your Being’, that part of you which is the ‘Mind of God’. Only through this union of self love can we connect and be inspired (In spirit), to serve Love and the highest good of all creation. Only in this place of unconditional love can true miracles of transformation occur.
Fine philosophy. Inspiring? Impossible?
So we look at our situations and wonder if it is not selfish to ask for healing, or financial independence or the most loving relationship. A lot of stuff out there lures us with ‘secrets’ to success, the achievement of our dreams and so forth. We try some of it and find our situation deteriorating, perhaps. We don’t deserve that. We are good people. We see some achieving that which we desire. Why not all?
Our real time, real life observations and thoughts can sabotage us. ‘Get real! Don’t be lazy! Work harder! Harden up! Accept your lot! Handle the jandal! Be positive! There’s worse off than you! Don’t be greedy! You asked for it! People will never change!I can’t.
Our fault!
Love does none of that. Love stands with us always and when we ‘get it’, the creation and its energies work for us as we work for it.
There is nothing right or wrong about desiring money, good health, positive relationships – but nothing will change in our lives if we do what we’ve always done. And death – the ultimate transformation, is inevitable. We do not know exactly when or how. So in being conscious of who we are, in each moment, as often as we can, death will never sneak up on us unprepared. And it is nothing to fear. We are being vessels of love in each moment, in this dimension and in others. If we are doing what we love to serve Love we can be sure we will be taken care of. We will be peaceful and happy.
The ego – our human being- will transform in this life if we work from our hearts, not our heads. When it is heart first, our heads will follow. If we have dreams which utilise our passions and strengths, heart first will lead us and let them manifest. Sometimes the ultimate transformation (death) comes when we don’t expect it. Be easy. It is all about LOVE and serving the highest good. Our dreams will live on. We will continue. Death can come at any moment and we are ready.
So ‘love the lord thy God with all your heart. And Love your neighbour as yourself.’ This cannot be achieved when we hold feelings of resentment, entitlement, guilt, judgement, anger, horror, fear. It cannot be achieved if we do not recognise and acknowledge our own divinity and connection with all – and theirs. And it cannot be pretended. From the open heart we can love those feelings to death – that is transform them to gratitude, compassion, excitement, passion, joy, hope, allowing, positivity, forgiveness and unconditional love in every moment. We can take on work which employs our strengths and passions to give love to the creation, through compassion and with gratitude, with the true knowledge that it will deliver us from pain and bring balance, peace and harmony to our lives.


Being Conscious of our Blessings.

24 Sep


Many of the questions we ask ourselves, others and our personal versions of God come from our desire to find meaning in our lives. Why suffering? Why prejudice? Why judgement? Why some and not others?

These questions often come from a perception that we, or others, have failed in some way. We have this image in our minds about what things ‘should’ look like and when they don’t, we ask them from a place of despair and longing.

As long as we do this the answers we receive involve such things as sacrifice, suffering, martyrdom and/or their creation via control, elimination and taking power from those we identify as the causes of our problems. These ‘answers’ manifest in many ways at many levels.

I was once advised to count my blessings as a way to begin understanding life and its struggles. When I received this advice I was somewhat resentful of what I felt was a judgement or assumption that I didn’t already do this! After all, I had noticed that others were without shelter or food where I was well fed and comfortable. I knew how fortunate I was to be raised with love in a country outside of a warzone. I was aware of my blessings – wasn’t I?

However, I could certainly see there was much in my life I counted as burdens. So I began to consciously ‘count my blessings’.

As time progressed I began to see that ‘blessings’ in people’s lives were relevant, and things I took for granted – to smell a flower, for example, were a rare and coveted joy for some people in whose ravaged environments a flower was rarely seen let alone available to smell. What I began to understand was that blessings are available to All.

Our blessings are symbols of unconditional love which come into our lives when our hearts are open. We do not go and get them. To compare blessings, to hold our own as being more fortunate or luckier or to feel privileged and to feel guilty about it, or prideful of it, is to devalue the symbol. To feel   ‘hard done by’ when we believe others don’t deserve their blessings and ours are worth less – or more – is to miss the point completely. It is to devalue Unconditional Love itself!

What we are tempted to do is equate a blessing with getting something we think we want whereas a blessing is recognition of something we already have! The more we see and count the more our hearts open to the divinity within us and the more we feel gratitude, love and compassion. This brings more awareness of more blessings.  This is why some who seemingly ‘have it all’ are miserable, fearful, miserly and controlling, while others, even in the midst of trials, are positive, optimistic and inspiring. Alternatively, some who ‘have it all’ are generous and expansive while some ‘have nots’ are angry and poisonous.

When we ‘want’ (as in covet) something, we are focussed on not having it. Then when we ‘get’ it, whether by fair means or foul, we are focussed on keeping it. It becomes the millstone around our neck. (We didn’t ‘get it’ at all!) If we didn’t get what we were after, we blame or judge our ‘innate evil’, others or karma or the devil or anything other than take responsibility for turning a blind eye to the blessing we actually are.

We do not need to ‘go and get’, or ‘fight’ for what we want if what we want is to share our blessings. We simply build our list of blessings as they arise in our minds and our dreams are given to us. We are inspired by the blessing of ideas which come to us and take forward action. If a decision we make seems disastrous we count it as a blessing of lesson and step forward with plan B. To count blessings is to feel gratitude for everything that shows up in our lives and use it as inspiration to step forward into our dream. It is only our fear which might stop us taking that action. So love that, too. Count that as the blessing that allows us to understand what Love does NOT feel like. Embrace it and it will transform into courage and then into joy. Knowing this brings gratitude for the blessing of fear. Fancy that!

(The biggest fear many of us face is death. We do all possible to avoid contemplating it and when it stares us in the face we turn away. Count this too. Death is the reason we know life. Egoistic beliefs and fears are what allow us to know our blessings. Love them – to death! ‘Death has no sting’. It merely heralds a transformation of energy. So IS the death of egoistic beliefs.)


2 Aug

Snot! (Snot me. Snot us. We are good. They are evil. We will be saved. They won’t.)
I believe that we are collectively responsible for all that we create. And we are personally responsible for our influence on that collective creation. This has not always been so. When I was first introduced to the notion, I was horrified. I felt defensive.
How can I change what has always been? The nature of man? The random appearance of disease? The misery we see in our own and each others’ lives? Hopelessness? Babies suffering? Wars? Earthquakes? Snot my fault, though.  Snot me.
If we believe that the world is full of stuff assailing us, that it all happens from outside of us, we shut ourselves in our little fortresses and throw snot.
Everything gets plastered with it. Snot me, it’s them. It’s him. It’s her. It’s their belief. It’s their choice. Snot me. It’s GOD punishing me. I’m only human. It’s my nature. I can’t help it. It’s the devil. It’s society. It’s the law. It’s injustice…snot me.
We seek to blame someone or something, or else we take it all on ourselves, believing we are bad. And that’s snot our fault either – it’s just how it is!
Some of us choose to accept it as GODS PLAN. Some blame the devil and await GODS deliverance. ( it’s snot my problem, I just have to wear it ‘till I’m saved.)
Some believe and accept that it is our fault and seek deliverance from our sin – it’s snot us who can do that, though. It is out of our hands.
Some believe that it is humanity’s fault – (so snot anything I can do about the nature of humanity!)– pollution, unnatural food, lifestyle, poisonous medicines, greed, conspiracy, corruption etc. and take steps to create a happy and healthy environment for ourselves in our own little walled in corner of the world. Some invite others in to experience our joy, to be prideful, maybe, and incite jealousy. Others of us are very exclusive, inviting only those who have created similar fortresses. And there are those who leave their doors open, available to any who choose to knock.
And many of us seize life to serve ourselves. We use and abuse, take and plunder with all manner of justification. It works for us because we truly believe in our power over those of us who do not claim their own.
None of us walks through life consciously wishing these things to happen to any of us – except when we judge ourselves or others. In that case, many believe,  people DO deserve it. This is hypocrisy if we believe in unconditional love. So is ‘snot’.
The energies of the universe are available to us all for whatever purpose we wish – hidden from us, perhaps, in a subconscious agenda we are not aware of, or for personal power over others, justified by our sense of superiority, or guilt, or self righteousness, or vengeance, or for the highest good of all! It is all the same to the energies and universal laws that create our world through our thoughts, feelings and beliefs which are generated by our experience.
It is a vicious – or beautiful – cycle. If those feelings bypass core source/love/GOD – then they manifest without it, according to our wishes, conscious or not.
And so, we wage our war of snot against those of us who choose to behave in ways that impact negatively on ourselves and/or others.
Or we accept blindly our fate and martyr ourselves to the world that assaults us, believing that the ugliness of human-nature is inevitable.
But we can choose to take personal responsibility for life knowing who and what we truly are. When we understand that it is our thoughts and feelings which create our reality we can be so ready (sorry) to give everything forward (forgive) into love.
This is not about being guilty. It is about recognising our ability to observe our thoughts and feelings and respond (responsibility = ability to respond – Dr. Barbara Anne Brennan) to a perceived need to change them. This includes observing behaviours which limit people’s freedom to choose and taking measures to protect that freedom, but with love at the helm it is compassionate intervention, not judgemental, vengeful or punishment driven. The all important thing in anything we think and do is intent.
As Ghandi’s allegedly famous words advise, we must be the change we wish to see in the world. We must be the Light!
(Gandhi did not exactly say that, that quote is paraphrased from a paragraph of one of his 98 volumes; Vol. 13, Ch. 153, page 241 to be exact. It goes like this:
“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.”
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Living off the Land. A right or a privilege?

28 Mar

Another memory to share with you, out of which to serve the higher good.

Toheroa season was  an annual highlight – until, of course, it became so popular that the succulent treat was threatening to abandon the planet.

Until then the farming families would sort out a day when weather and tides suited, load up their vehicles  (we would sit on an old car seat on the back ofthe land rover – oh my, OSH, what you would say today!) and head off to Dargaville to camp for the day at the high tide mark on the wild west coast beach.

You were allowed to take a certain amount of the shellfish home but as well as that you could eat as many as you liked on the beach. We would build a fire to boil a billy of water in which to open them and set up a hand mincer so fritters could be fried.

What enjoyment there was to be had – rolling down the sand dunes, racing through the tussock grass, getting bowled by sweepers while digging in the sand at the edge of low tide  and then eating fritters or steamed Toheroa sandwiched between slabs of soft white bread and dripping with golden butter! Such sea-splashed, sun-washed, salt-sprayed, sand-blasted, greasy, sticky, exhausted delights were we at the end of those golden days!

Yes, wonderful memories. It does not seem likely that such experiences will be available to the general populace again. If I’m really honest about it , it was probably my experience only 2 or 3 times – it all had to coordinate with tides, milking, weather and budgets.

The following article by Glenys Stage, “The Elusive Toheroa”, while written some time ago, outlines some of the adversities this delicacy has endured.

It is apparent from this that the shellfish is extremely sensitive to any environmental change and has always been so, so that even in prehistoric times, the population underwent huge fluctuations. Does this mean we should ignore the call to restrict access?

I think not. At no time has the environmental change that the toheroa endures been so huge as in recent history. Never before have they had less time to adapt to continuing pressure.

The restrictions must help. The question is whether or not we think it is important. We of older generations desire to share our more delightful experiences with the younger – but perhaps it must be our stories which provide this, rather than the actual experience, since we have taken without giving back.

We have lost many species to the pressures of increased population and business exploitation of resources. The planet and the entities which live with it will always strive to achieve balance and nature will always succeed. The energies held in living organisms – including us – will be utilised to this purpose. If we are not aware of this law and do not consciously work with it to maintain balance, it will be attained to our detriment and to the detriment of animal and plant species.

If we believe all is connected, then we understand that we can influence this balance and that we have choices. Our interaction with nature triggers effects which can snowball and cause reactions beyond our understanding in the longer term. The highest good will always be served when we love and respect nature, our planet and each other equally. Would anyone sacrifice their loved ones for  material gain? Unfortunately they can and do. They remove choice from their existence and they do it in the absence of love.

In the ‘old days’ a smaller population lived in balance where nature was revered and resources preserved for future generations. But in more modern times, we have ignored the needs of our oneness, separating ourselves from all of it. Living off the land has been something we have interpreted as the right to exploit it rather than as a privileged relationship of give and take. The give part has been forgotten.

To my mind, anything we can do to restore that paradigm, adapting and adjusting with love our relationship, is positive. This includes supporting efforts to cut down on environmental pollution, discontinuing exploitation of natural resources and promoting the use of natural and balanced farming methods.

Judge Not…

4 Mar

Many of us in ‘Western’ culture have been raised in a society whose mores and laws are rooted in the Judeo – Christian teachings of the Bible. We have at least a rudimentary knowledge of the ten commandments of the old testament. We carry reaction to the premonitory warnings of the book of Revelations and have heard stories of Solomon’s wisdom. From the New Testament, most have at least heard the Lord’s Prayer and have been exposed in some way to Jesus’ teachings about not judging, giving to Rome, turning the other cheek, the meek inheriting the Earth and so on.

However, I would say everyone is very aware of the hypocrisies which abound in an unjust, unfair and unbalanced world. It is why so many are rebelling against traditional teaching and philosophy.

In my last blog I addressed the concept of guilt as self judgement and its relationship to hypocrisy. I would like to expand on this theme to focus on Jesus’ teaching – ‘Judge not that ye be not judged.’

The human, by ‘being’ and making choices does so by comparing and categorising options. When exploring options for what to think and what to do, we usually sort things into two groupings. What is ‘right’ and what is ‘wrong’. We draw on our experiences and how they have impacted on us. We also draw on the experiences of others and how we imagine they would impact on us. When we are unsure, we draw on the choices others make. These tend to be people we ‘agree’ with,  those we admire and look up to and/or those from whom we desire approval; or those we fear. Sometimes we change how we categorise things that are ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ depending on who we are with.

If we are to listen to Jesus, then the mere act of comparing in order to separate people into one group or another, is to judge them. This is an enormous paradox for us to come to terms with if we believe that a person’s behaviour defines the person. When we define people by what they do we are not only judging them, we are also failing to love them unconditionally. (Another of Jesus’ directives.) This includes oneself.

Instead of judging people for their behaviours, we can discern behaviours which are the result of an ab(sin)ce of unconditional love, and desire that those empty spaces be filled. Compassion for ourselves and our fellow humans recognises our oneness both as humans ‘being’ together and as an energy of unconditional love flowing ceaselessly  in every direction – except where it is shut out by our ‘being’ human.

We are in this thing called ‘Life’ together! When we judge a fellow human we are not only shutting a door to a room in our own hearts against Love entering or leaving, but we are barricading the doors to others against their potential choice to open them to Love. As humans when we lock our own rooms from the inside, we lock others’ from the outside. Love doesn’t have the opportunity to enter. Forgiveness is about unlocking the doors. Sorry is being so ready to find the humility to recognise the need to do so.

I am not advocating fence sitting or live and let live policy in addressing behaviours which are the result of a loveless existence. These deny others’ choices –  to make decisions, to choose partners, to make mistakes, to learn, to enjoy living, to freedom – to choose life.

What we can do is be discerning about the choices we – and our fellow humans – make, which impact directly on the right for others to choose. We can act as necessary to stop or change that behaviour. But there will be no possibility to fill empty rooms in human consciousness with love, if we have no desire to find compassion, born of unconditional love, in our own hearts.

Many of us who observe hypocrisy in others  are unwilling to consider that we recognise it because we have been – or are – there already. It is in our experience. Some reject all wisdom because of it.

If our hearts are open to love, we can discern wisdom from folly, courage from foolhardiness, kindness from guile, assertiveness from anger, justice from condemnation, compassion from sympathy, appreciation from prejudice, humility from weakness; there is no right or wrong – there is only Love or Not Love. No one can change the vibration of love. We can only shut it out -or in- with a hard and closed heart, as lead blocks radiation, or walls block light.

Within every human heart is unconditional love – the soul. To open our hearts and allow the flow of love through our ‘being’, will affect human consciousness and bring about Heaven on Earth.

So, ‘Judge not that ye be not judged.’ Let’s be mindful of hypocrisy in our thoughts and actions and begin to allow unconditional love to transcend it.

What is Guilt?

27 Feb

One of the greatest teachings of Jesus which most of us either ignore or ‘tweak’ to justify our own behaviours is ‘Judge not that ye be not judged.

My understanding of this relates to the need to observe our hypocrisy – when we observe this in ourselves it manifests as feelings of guilt. Guilt is self judgement. When we observe it (hypocrisy) in others, we judge them – accusing them of being ‘wrong’ and ourselves of being ‘right’.

Human behaviours are a reaction to other human behaviours. We each categorise behaviours, which include thinking, as good or bad, depending on our society, upbringing, friendships, core beliefs, choices, culture etc. – the feeling of guilt results when we compare our own behaviours to the expectations placed on us by the ownership we have of those definitions.

When we feel guilt we have a number of options:

  • We ignore it. ‘None of my business. What the heck. Shit happens.’
  • We justify it by comparing ourselves to the ‘enemy’.  ‘ He started it!’
  • We punish ourselves. ‘I’m useless. I’m unworthy. I deserve to be punished.’
  • We feel sorry for ourselves. ‘Nobody likes me.’
  • We forgive ourselves and move forward.

The final option is one we would all like to think we can apply! But how often is the perception  that we have done so, really the truth?

My take on this comes from my personal conviction that:

  • ‘God’ is an energy of unconditional love – it just IS. The attributes of this energy when it manifests as behaviour in the human are things like ‘kindness’, ‘patience’, ‘gratitude’, ‘compassion’, ‘acceptance’, ‘allowing’, ‘charity’ and of course, ‘unconditional love.’
  • ‘Sin’ is any energy we absorb and reflect that is abSINt of love. Its attributes manifest as behaviours of ‘judgement’, ‘self righteousness’, ‘superiority’, ‘outrage’, ‘guilt’, ‘grief’, ‘pity’, ‘hate’, ‘fear’, ‘retribution’ and ‘conditional love’.

I believe Jesus reflected the energy of unconditional love completely. When he was killed he ‘absorbed’ all energies abSINt of love and underwent the complete feeling of isolation it brings – lonely, forsaken, cut off – until the love he truly was transformed it all to reflect as the greatest act of compassion that we have ever observed, not because he underwent more physical pain than others (which he did not), but because he underwent the emotional pain of sin – complete isolation from the energy of love – by embracing and feeling it all.

It is the same pain we all undergo when we are feeling the effects of love’s absence in our lives. His example can show us the way to transform it with the energy of absolute love. This energy is EVERYWHERE except where it is isolated by the heart of the human in his ‘being’.

When we open our heart to connect with the love of our soul (AKA Jesus, God, Love, Allah, Buddha, Gaia – whoever/whatever is our personal representation of unconditional love),  and stand with our own pain – guilt, grief, hate, anger, blame -it can transform into a love of lesson. Only then can our hearts expand to stand with others in true compassion, available to them with love should they choose to open their own hearts. If we do not do this we deny them – and ourselves – the choice to change.

So we begin by examining our definition of unconditional love, as it applies to our personal ‘representative’. If we find it wanting, it is because we have applied to our concept of ‘God’, attributes which are created in his absence, to justify a perceived need to have power over behaviours.

If we can stand with the power of love in our being, then those who stand with a love of power cannot wield it! They might then choose love. But we must first address those of our own thoughts and actions which stand with a desire for, or subservience to, power. So we must identify this in ourselves and forgive it (give it forward to unconditional love, being so ready – sorry – to do so).

So when do we say no to others’ actions?

We can say no and stand against any action or decree which denies free choice. Although the choice to serve a love of power is honoured by unconditional love, if it disallows free thinking and choice for others, then war, law changes, incarceration, assertiveness, boundary setting  and protest are justified (application of truth serving love) even as we stand with them in their pain and offer our love. However, if we apply justice from a desire for revenge or in prejudice or hatred, rather than discerning an absence of love in others’ choices, we stand with them in judgement to feed our own love of power.

So the questions of choice in our lives are:

  • unconditional love, or conditional love.
  • the power of love, or the love of power.
  • compassion – standing with others in their pain, or judgement –  comparing others to our own measured standards.
  • discerning behaviours as denying or allowing the freedom to choose, or judging  behaviours as ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.
  • seek truth to serve love through the power of love, or seek truth to serve power through the love of power.
  • forgive -give forward into love those places within the heart absent of it or refuse to seek readiness (be sorry) to do so.
  • open the heart with a desire to serve love or close it with a desire to serve or wield fear.
  • Integrity or dishonesty.

Always seek within. If we are to bring about ‘Heaven on Earth’ we cannot exempt ourselves from these considerations of our personal choices.